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Why Do People Lie About Being Stalked.

30/10/2016

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Why do people lie about being stalked?


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Denisa Băileşteanu, I am a walking lie detector, sooner or later.
30 Jun

Being stalked is a serious threat to any person. It makes the victim frustrated, terrified, emotionally unstable. Some victims might seek help, others are too frightened to do that. But one thing is clear: being stalked feels horrible.

On the one hand, I personally don’t see why someone would blatantly lie about it, other than seeking attention. A stalked person who truly seeks help looks very frightened and speaks softly or whispers when he or she says it. One can easily see it. Most stalked people don’t seek help though, and it’s understandable. The stalker is shrouded in mystery most of the time and the victim is afraid that he is going to hurt him/her somehow.

People who believe they are stalked usually look behind or around them many times while walking or being outside their house.

On the other hand, the only reason someone would lie about being stalked would be attention seeking.

“Oh, look, someone is stalking me! This means I’m important and good-looking”. This thought sometimes comes with a spoken sentence: “I realized I’m being stalked, OMFG! I hate those bastards!”. When it’s a lie, it’s spoken (or shouted, so everybody can hear) without any trace of worry by the so-called “victim”. This is meant to bring attention to the liar. If someone thinks of bringing the matters to the police, the so-called “victim” refuses and says he’s got everything under control. This is often joined by the typical behavior of the liar (rapid blinking, over-gesticulating, opposite dominant hand moving etc).

Not all of these signs are obvious for what I stated here, a person who is a good actor and who is seeking attention is capable to play a very frightened person. There are also people who will talk about being stalked as if nothing happens, they usually believe the stalkers can do no harm to them.



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THERE WAS A LITTLE GIRL by | Kirkus Reviews https://www.kirkusreviews.com/book-reviews/brooke-shields/there-was-a-little-girl-real-story/ #kirkus
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If a liar lies, there are consequences.

29/10/2016

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Dr. Phil repeatedly asked if I thought Brooke Shields was responsible for my sister's death.

After Producer John Heinz repeated the question 4x,

I then said, yes, yes I do.

(in the promo clip you can hear me repeating the question following an answer.)

http://www.drphil.com/videos/convicted-stalker-blames-shields-for-siblings-death-my-sister-drank-herself-to-death-worrying-about-me/

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A person charged with aiding and abetting or accessory is usually not present when the crime itself is committed, but he or she has knowledge of the crime before or after the fact, and may assist in its commission through advice, actions, or financial support.
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Judge releases Mr. Rinaldi in less than a week based on likelihood of winning appeal. 'Kept illegally for 21 days longer.

29/10/2016

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http://www.drphil.com/videos/rinaldi-on-his-jail-time-in-brooke-shields-stalking-case-it-was-just-bad-adult-camp/
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RipOff Report

29/10/2016

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Live Free or Die.

27/10/2016

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Dear Attorney General Loretta Lynch.

27/10/2016

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Dear President O'Bama and First Lady
Michelle,
Vice President Biden,
Secretary John Kerry,
US Attorney General Loretta Lynch, &
NY States Attorney Eric Schneiderman.

Christmas 2013, I had requested the First Lady hang 26 original Hallmark ornaments on behalf of each life lost at SandyHook Elementary School.

For two weeks we were going to have them hang on a first tree, until we were told they didn't match the military theme.

Jillian Doody- assistant to VP Biden called me to tell me the bad news but had promised the ear of the WhiteHouse should we need a friend going forward.

We weren't believed.

Bill Ackman of Pershing Square offered us his Paul Bernstein of The Pershing Square Foundation as a mentor.

We weren't believed.

Newtown, CT introduced us to Rebecca Kowalski who lost her son Chase so we could build a center honoring the 26lives lost on 12/14/12.

We weren't believed.

We need your help because I don't know who else is doing as much as we are trying to STOPGunSchoolViolence.. we have the idea add support and you can create a movement.

I've asked Secretary Clinton for a pardon, but I'd appreciate one now. We did mean this as a joke to Secretary Clinton believing that the NYC courts were honorable and our innocents would be easily proved.

What we/I didn't count on was:
1. Blatant disregard for the truth. perjury.
2. When I asked my attorney to take the stand and to allow for a SandyHook mom, a SandyHook dad, an elected Newtown official, and a SandyHook memorial volunteer the following Monday, I didn't see the meeting of the minds.. (my attorney, the ADA Gregory, and the judge to leave court and decide to end the court on Friday so the judge could get back to his vacation..)

I had less than a month to prepare a year and a half long case with my attorney.. the original attorney assigned is on tape yelling at me the 3times met...

Ineffective/Abusive Council. + coercion.

Point blank, #SHELied.

State of NY vs. JR

Brooke Shields complained about seeing me in my neighborhood.

1. I was a fan age 13-15 and wrote fan letters. The way social media worked back in the 80's was to solicit fans to join their fan club and provided/requested even.. address to send fan mail. Mrs. Shields hired a team to answer and respond to all letters.

2. If they didn't want repeat writers they shouldn't have encouraged..

I wrote. They responded. A pen pal was forged and the mom befriended my dad and an abused little boy found justice when the two parents had the neighbor charged with sexual assault.

3. Fan letters stopped once Mrs. Shields showed kindness to a stranger..

1981- 1983 I was a fan.

1986- 1987 I was laid up and on my back after struck and hit by a drunk driver as a pedestrian. I broke my neck and was housebound without anything to do- bored beyond belief!!!

No letters to Ms. Shields. Why would I. I was no longer a fan and with Mrs. Shields and my parents having my abuser convicted, I was free- free to come out as a gay dude.

In 1988 I was invited to a restaurant where the manager had wanted me to meet the Shields. We met and took pictures- nothing like what Ms. Shields & Co. lied er.. suggested.

In 1992 I volunteered and began philanthropic work. I received letters of support from The White House, to Barbra Streisand. From Oprah to Annie Lennox. Brooke refused her support, and no communication followed. Why would there be. My life was about helping kids.

Actually, the admiration ended when her mom made Brooke Shields just Brooke to me. They extended themselves and provided contact information. If it wasn't amicable then 201.385.9849 would not have been given out.

They cared for a little boy and inspired me to do a life of non profit.

It wasn't until 2003 that I saw Mrs. Shields again and it was only after her husband said I had to meet Brooke... she thanked me for a gift and assured me she'd keep it on her bedroom dresser... it was in every sense a nice meeting. Had it not been friendly or kind then the place of occupancy wouldn't have been divulged.

The court did not discuss this, nor address it. 'even when the rest of the correspondence was used to make the most offensive correlation imaginable!

They denied the introduction of clearly a kindness and one that would clearly demonstrate good intentions. Or Lie#1...

Skip 10 years... in that time I did see a few Broadway shows- not all. And not when she played a friend's club. I don't know about you, but I didn't want to hear Brooke sing and despite my ability to go to every show had I wanted, I didn't attend 1. Again, Brooke cannot and should not sing! She claimed I sat in the front row. Lie#2.

If I saw 10 front row shows, there would be a record of it.

She did a play called Vagina Mobologues. Lie#3. I did not go.. uhmmmm title explains it all.

The first time I saw Ms. Shields in the neighborhood, I was verbally assaulted after saying a hello. I then went to social media to complain- she did not like it! I saw her again and she was a bit more civilized. This time I received a hello back. The 3rd time I saw her in my neighborhood I offered her a gift her mother had given me years ago thinking it would be a kind gesture- she had just lost her mother and I had just lost my dad- I thought I was being kind. After all, my dad's belongings were more special, I thought something that used to be Mrs. Shields would be valued.. I was wrong. In actuality I was not only being kind, but was trying to demonstrate good will in the hopes she'd help in my 24/7 full time effort to #STOPGunSchoolViolence and my assistance to Newtown and the April 5th voted in project we first proposed in 2012... The last time I saw her in my neighborhood was when I offered her a parking spot. 4x in 30years????

• I've lived in the same cities as she since 1989- the only time I saw her in public was when she moved within 2blocks of me and I was on my way to do errands. (I provided pharmacy receipts coinciding with the 4Runner ins.. and Starbucks ap that catalogues my every purchase for the past 5 years. I only went to the Starbucks on Ms. Shields' street was when the Starbucks 6blocks away had wifi trouble... I chose to go 6 blocks away as opposed to Brooke's Starbucks 2blocks away for:
1. Better seating
2. Better wifi)

• I've parked in NYC for 5+ years, and the one time there's trouble was when I parked on her street.

I live in the WestvVillage and stay within 15x15 block radius... if I was interested in seeing Brooke I would've easily been present on her street and the only times I was was when I was sitting at a local Starbucks or going to my 20year pharmacy..

After parking on my street I playfully did write her name on my windshield because it was a good spot and was letting her know my car and it was also in fun. I came to find my car vandalized. I again went to social media. She again retaliated.

She then went to the police to complain. The DA then took a hold.

All Ms. Shields wanted was an order of protection.. she didn't know me- fine. For a year and a half they offered a disorderly conduct. If I was a stalker they wouldn't have had to take 2years to fabricate...

(I of course would not perjure myself to get away with something I didn't do... I have a 7year old who I was raising.. and we as men are our kids example! With integrity you could send me away for YEARS before I'd ever EVER perjure myself. Brooke did it to have a street free of an ex fan!)

If I was stalking her, she wouldn't have gone after my social media complaint when my car was damaged. In legal terms that's called retaliation NOT STALKING.

THE OVER AGRESSIVE ADA under the guise of the DA then used Ms. Shields celebrity to convict this ludicrous scenario that is both an embarrassment to the law but demonstrates at every turn a gross misuse of power.

Both Ms. Shields and her husband Mr. Henche perjured themselves in court and it can be easily explained given discovery provided by the prosecution.

In addition to the injustice within the DA's office, the police detectives at the 6th Precinct have had their own fun as well.

A detective is seen on surveillance tape assaulting my vehicle, punching in a window, and booting my car.- this was exactly 10:30 pm.. Another set of detectives are seen at 5:00pm or so sitting parked behind my car observing my car to intimidate me.

Both Mr. Henche and Ms. Shields perjured themselves in court and my defense attorney didn't prepare any defense and was not prepared to challenge. And when he did, it was a
a modest protest. It was an obvious back-room arrangement. The attorney also proceeded with less than a month of preparation

I charge abuse of power, ineffective council, and retaliation. Not to mention the ADA released documentation which when referred in court bore no resemblance to what had been released.

I was taken in custody on June 17, and released the following Friday based on winning an apellate court's vacating my stay based on the likelihood of my winning the appeal. The judge ordered my release, Rykers/The DA would not let me go.

Rykers stole money from my account.

The Legal Aid attorney was to have started my appeal, and has yet to do so.

The legal aids also proved ineffective council and the thee meetings were all recorded proving nothing was/had been done.

Brooke Shields and her husband perjured themselves and when you go line by line like I have, it's lie upon lie upon lie.

Last week I was on Dr Phil

Monday I'm meeting with Vanity Fair, OK magazine and American Necua Group

I trust you will listen to me because THE ONLY time I've been allowed to talk was on Dr Phil.

The court delayed delayed and delayed until they finally got a judge whom they preferred and despite his being on vacation, he presided over the court. Lastly, in my defense, I had a SandyHook mom, a SandyHook dad, and co-workers from Newtown that legitimized my work giving me reason to approach my neighbor's to support Newtown all the while trying to create a dialogue that would/could prevent future shootings. My attorney would not allow my testimony nor the previous mentioned solely because the judge did not want the case to run into Monday.

Celebrity injustice, gross misuse of power, and jailing the few people who are actually trying to do something reguardibg gun violence.

Thank you,
John M. Rinaldi

Btw, please tell Secretary of State Kerry that Mike and Kris Rinaldi's son John is seeking justice. My parents were friends of Secretary Kerry and his wife, and my dad took extra special care of Secretary Kerry's mom in Hudson, MA.

Please ask Jillian Doody, former aid to VP Biden, for her assistance as well. She offered the White House's assistance while we worked alongside Newtown.

And lastly, Secretary Clinton has applauded our work while canvassing in VT and NH. We even joked about my needing a pardon.

VERY CLEARLY
1. I lived in the same city as Brooke has for 30 years. The only time there was an issue was when I ran into a rude neighbor, complained on social media, and she complained in retaliation.
2. Had I not parked on Ms. Shields' street there would never have ever been a reason to have thought twice about me.
3. Brooke is a self proclaimed hyper vigilant who brags about when she's good, she's very good. And when she's bad she's horrid.
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Dr. Phil

27/10/2016

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As Donald Trump would say,
​WRONG!
Inside the Mind of Brooke Shields’ WRONGFULLY Convicted Stalker

On June 17, 2016, John Rinaldi was WRONGFULLY/ unethically convicted in New York of stalking and harassing actress Brooke Shields, and he was sentenced to 60 days in jail. (released by appellate court in less than a week based on the likelihood of my winning the appeal..). In his first ever TV interview, John claims he was wrongly convicted and that the case was based on a series of lies and coincidence. John claims the case has destroyed his life and he blames Brooke Shields for the death of his sister. Brooke claimed in court that John’s actions left her and her children terrified and violated. In a fascinating interview, Dr. Phil questions John about his actions and behavior.

http://www.drphil.com/shows/inside-the-mind-of-brooke-shields-convicted-stalker/ #

I was invited to clear my name, yet was sand-bagged and was told I wasn't going to appeal the case on tv as promised, but Dr. Phil was going to shed light on the 'diabolical' mind of an accused stalker.

If I had never parked on 10th St. that ONE day, NONE of this would ever have happened.

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fraud
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noun
  1. wrongful or criminal deception intended to result in financial or personal gain.
    "he was convicted of fraud"
    synonyms:fraudulence, cheating, swindling, embezzlement, deceit, deception, double-dealing, chicanery, sharp practice; More

    • a person or thing intended to deceive others, typically by unjustifiably claiming or being credited with accomplishments or qualities.
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STALKER? ass-holes!

THS IS INTENDED TO DEFEND SOMEONE WRONGFULLY CONVICTED and for you the public.

We have no desire to contact or gain Ms. Shields' attention in any way shape or form and request to be left alone as we try to salvage 20+ years of philanthropic work.

The only other objective is to show the injustice between privilege and those without.

OUR only directive IS to create a dialogue so vital to:
#STOPGunSchoolViolence.



Stalking is a pattern of repeated and unwanted attention, harassment, contact, or any other course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear.
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Stalking can include:
Repeated, unwanted, intrusive, and frightening communications from the perpetrator by phone, mail, and/or email.
Repeatedly leaving or sending victim unwanted items, presents, or flowers.
Following or laying in wait for the victim at places such as home, school, work, or recreation place.
Making direct or indirect threats to harm the victim, the victim's children, relatives, friends, or pets.
Damaging or threatening to damage the victim's property.
Harassing victim through the internet.
Posting information or spreading rumors about the victim on the internet, in a public place, or by word of mouth.
Obtaining personal information about the victim by accessing public records, using internet search services, hiring private investigators, going through the victim's garbage, following the victim, contacting victim's friends, family work, or neighbors, etc.


​WHO WOULD/COULD fear
one's clearly stated goal to
#STOPGunSchoolViolence?

WHO WOULD/COULD fear
a child advocate?


mic drop.

LASTLY.

This is a final resignation to fighting abuse, violence, and bullies.

I will NO LONGER attempt child-advocacy.

I will NO LONGER live in my neighborhood of 18years.

And it's not because I'm bullied out. If anyone- anyone did not welcome me, I would gladly not be anywhere near.

My only request is to be honest, do not lie/perjure yourself for self gain. Lying is not a victimless crime- it kills people.

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PSYCHOLOGY TODAY

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Psychologists have dubbed the phenomenon:
The Boy Who Cried Wolf Effect.

The Boy Who Cried Wolf Effect, named after Aesop's fable about a shepherd who fakes wolf attacks. In real life, experts say, these "shepherds," mostly women, aren't acting out of boredom. These damsels in distress are very often motivated by an intense desire for attention and may feel unfairly neglected by those close to them, often romantic partners. Others are simply crying out to a world they feel ignores them.

(or forgot about them..)


People who fake crimes are transforming feelings of invisibility into a fantasy that they may come to believe is reality, says Bonnie Jacobson, a psychologist and director of the New York Institute for
Psychological Change in New York City. She says a "hoaxer" wins attention by playing the passive victim, similar to a person with Munchausen syndrome, who fakes an illness to get the attention of doctors
or loved ones. But that doesn't mean that people who perpetrate large-scale deceptions are necessarily in need of psychiatric help, says Maureen O'Sullivan, a University of San Francisco psychology professor who studies how people lie.

GOOGLE CELEBRITY LIARS.



Once feared kidnapped—or worse—Audrey Seiler, a
University of Wisconsin honors student, was found in the spring of 2004, curled up near a marsh in Madison. She told police she'd been held captive at
knifepoint for four days.

Melissa McGee, from Auburn, Washington,
reported she had been raped in a park in 2003 while her 5-year-old daughter played nearby. That same year a 16-year-old New York girl said a man with a swastika tattoo punched her in the face after she refused to get into his car.

All three women have since admitted their stories were fabricated.

The Seiler and McGee cases have another common thread: Both seemed to be cries for attention targeted at specific people. Seiler allegedly sought
her disinterested boyfriend's eye, while McGee reportedly hoped her parents would pay her rent.
Such stories aren't as rare as one might think.

Although few match the media frenzy generated by the Seiler case, newspapers are sprinkled with local stories of crime fakery. Many hoaxes are discovered,
but it's likely that others are not.
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NYPD/ Internet Crimes.

12/10/2016

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if only The NYPD could have taken down the Bullying Site, RipOff Report's misrepresentations of us, Ms. Shields wouldn't have had any reason to react as innapropriately as she had.

***This is intended to reach an audience to demonstrate cyber-bullying and to help young children who are Cyber-Bullied.

We were bullied in 2010 after a friend stole from Kathy Rinaldi Hope. Michael Levine of Morristown, NJ was reported to the Morristown Police Department for theft and he retaliated by reporting KRH to an extortion site RipOff Report.

We thought we were adult enough to handle cyber bullying- we were wrong. Had I known now, I'd have suicided back in 2010. Had I died back then maybe we wouldn't have lost my baby sister this past July, 2016.

I'd like to say one can survive online bullying, but we're proof you cannot.
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CYBERBULLYING AND SOCIAL MEDIA
2015 report.

A greater proportion of middle school students are now using Instagram compared to Facebook.
Approximately 43% of the students report experiencing cyberbullying during their lifetime.
15% of students admitted to cyberbullying others during their lifetime.
Adolescent girls are more likely to have experienced cyberbullying in their lifetime (40.6% compared to 28.2%). The type of cyberbullying tends to be different among gender; girls are more likely to post mean comments online while boys are more likely to post hurtful pictures or videos online.
Cyberbullying has negative effects on victims, such as lowering self-esteem, increasing depression and producing feelings of powerlessness (Anderson, Bresnahan, & Musatics, 2014).
Among overweight adolescents, 61% have received mean or embarrassing posts online and 59% have received mean texts, e-mails or instant messages (Anderson, Bresnahan, & Musatics, 2014).
Because the National Crime Victimization Survey data is weighted to represent the entire enrolled 9th-12th grade student population, it is estimated that about 2.2 million students experienced cyberbullying in 2011. Of the 9% of students that reported being cyberbullied in the National Crime Victimization Survey compared to 6.2% in 2009 (National Center for Education Statistics [NCES], 2013):
  • 71.9% reported being cyberbullied once or twice in the school year
  • 19.6% reported once or twice a month
  • 5.3% reported once or twice a week
  • 3.1% reported almost everyday

When asked about cyberbullying in the National Crime Victimization Survey (NCES, 2013):
  • 3.6% of students reported being cyberbullied with hurtful information on the internet
  • 1.1% reported private information being purposely shared
  • 1.9% reported unwanted contact via e-mail
  • 2.7% reported unwanted contact via instant messaging
  • 4.4% reported unwanted contact via text messaging

Of the students that reported cyberbullying (Zweig, Dank, Lachman & Yahner, 2013):
  • 25% of teens on social media reported having an experience resulting in a face-to-face confrontation with someone.
  • 13% reported concern about having to go to school the next day.
  • 12% reported being called names they didn’t like via text messages.
  • 11% received a text message from another student intended to hurt their feelings.
  • 8 % reported having physical altercations with someone because of something that occurred on a social network site.
  • 6%reported another student sending an instant message or chat to hurt their feelings.
  • 4% reported having something put on a profile page to hurt their feelings.
  • 3% reported receiving a nasty email from another student.

As of 2010, 8% of public schools reported that cyberbullying had occurred among students daily or at least once a week at school or away from school. Of the schools who reported having cyberbullying situations, 4% reported that the school environment was affected by cyberbullying (U.S. Department of Education & U.S. Department of Justice of Justice Programs, 2013).
From 2006-2012, reports show teens are sharing more information about themselves on social media sites (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
Since 2011, teen Twitter use has grown significantly from 16% to 24% (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
In focus group discussion, teens indicated they dislike the increasing adult presence, excessive sharing, and stressful “drama” on Facebook (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
60% of teen Facebook users keep their profiles private and most report high levels of confidence in their ability to manage their account settings (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
Teen social media users do not express a high level of concern (9%) about third-party access to their data (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
As of 2012, teen social media users are sharing more personal information in their profiles (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013):
  • 91% post a photo of themselves (up from 79% in 2006)
  • 71% post their school name (up from 49% in 2006)
  • 71% post the city or town where they live (up from 61% in 2006)
  • 53% post their email address (up from 29% in 2006)
  • 20% post their cell phone number (up from 2% in 2006)

Older teen social media users (14-17) more frequently share certain types of information on their profiles than younger teen social media users (12-13) (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013):
  • Photos of themselves (94% vs. 82% of young teens)
  • Their school name (76% vs. 56% of young teens)
  • Their relationship status (66% vs. 50% of young teens)
  • Their cell phone number (23% vs. 11% of young teens)

16% of teen social media users have set up their profile to automatically include their location in their posts (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
26% of teen social media posts include false information like a fake name, age, or location to help protect their privacy (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
Teens who are concerned about third party access to their personal information are also more likely to engage in online reputation management (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
Among teen social media users, those who are “very” or “somewhat” concerned about third party access, are more likely to (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013):
  • Delete comments that others have made on their profile (61%)
  • Untag themselves in photos (52%)
  • Delete or deactivate their profile or account (38%)
  • Post updates, comments, photos, or videos that they later regret (26%)

1 in 6 online teens say they have been contacted online by someone they did not know in a way that made them feel scared or uncomfortable (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
More than 57% of internet-using teens have decided not to post content online over reputation concerns (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
44% of youth have lied about their age to gain access to restricted websites and online accounts (Pew Internet & American Life Project, 2013).
95% of all teens ages 12-17 are now online and 80% of online teens are users of social media sites (Pew Research Center Internet Project, 2011).
12 months prior to the 2011 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey, 16.2% of students had been electronically bullied, including being bullied through e-mail, chat rooms, instant messaging, websites, or texting (U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, 2011).
  • The prevalence of having been bullied electronically was higher among females (22.1%) than male (10.8%) students.
  • The prevalence of having been bullied electronically was higher among white (18.6%) than black (8.9%) and Hispanic (13.6%) students.
  • The prevalence of having been bullied electronically was higher among 10th grade (18.1%) than 9th grade (15.5%) and 12th grade (15.0%) students.

69% of teen social media users think that peers are mostly kind to each other on social media site, 20% say that peers are mostly unkind, and 11% think that “it depends” (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
88% of social media-using teens have witnessed other people being mean or cruel on social networking sites (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
  • 12% say they witnessed cruel behavior “frequently,” 29% say they saw meanness “sometimes,” and 47% say they saw such behavior “only once in a while” (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).

15% of social media-using teens say they have been the target of online meanness (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
65% of teens social media users have had an experience on a social networking site that made them feel good about themselves and 58% have felt closer to another person because of an experience on social media (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
41% of teens who use social media say they have experienced at least one of the negative outcomes we asked about (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011):
  • 25% of social media teens have had an experience that resulted in a face-to-face argument or confrontation with someone.
  • 22% have had an experience that ended their friendship with someone.
  • 13% have had an experience that caused a problem with their parents.
  • 13% have felt nervous about going to school the next day.
  • 8% have gotten into a physical fight with someone else because of something that happened on a social network site.
  • 6% have gotten in trouble at school because of an experience on a social network site.

19% of teens have been bullied in the past year in some form (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011):
  • 12% of all teens report being bullied in person.
  • 9% of all teens have been bullied via text message.
  • 8% say they have experienced some form of online bullying, such as through email, a social network site or instant messaging.
  • 7% say they have been bullied by voice calls over the phone.

95% of teen social media users who have witnessed cruel behavior on social media sites say they have seen others ignore the mean behavior (55% report witnessing this “frequently”), while 84% have seen people defend the person being harassed (27% report witnessing this “frequently”), and 84% have seen others tell someone to stop (20% report witnessing this “frequently”) (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
2/3 of teenagers who have witnessed online cruelty have also witnessed others joining in and 21% of teens say they have joined the harassment themselves (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
Teens rely most heavily on their parents and peers for advice about online behaviors and coping with challenging experiences (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
36% of teen social media users who have witnessed online cruelty seek advice on how to deal and 92% of those who ask for advice say that the advice they receive was “helpful” (Pew Research Internet Project, 2011).
85% of parent of youth ages 13-17 report their child has a social networking account (American Osteopathic Association, 2011).
52% of parents are worried their child will be bullied via social networking sites (American Osteopathic Association, 2011).
1 in 6 parents know their child has been bullied via a social networking site (American Osteopathic Association, 2011).

In 2011, 7.5 million (or more than 1/3) of all 20 million minors who actively used Facebook were younger than 13 and not technically permitted to use the site (Consumer Reports, 2011).
Among young Facebook users, more than 5 million were 10 years old and under, and their accounts were largely unsupervised by parents (Consumer Reports, 2011).
From 2010-2011, 1 million children reported being harassed, threatened, or subjected to other forms of cyberbullying on Facebook (Consumer Reports, 2011).
43% of teens reported that they have experienced cyberbullying (National Crime Prevention Council [NCPC], 2007).
Only 23% of teens reported being cyberbullied by someone they did not know (NCPC, 2007).
27% of teens report that their parents have no idea what they are doing online (NCPC, 2007).
42% of kids have been bullied while online. 1 in 4 have had it happen more than once (i-SAFE, 2004).
35% of kids have been threatened online. Nearly 1 in 5 have had it happen more than once (i-SAFE, 2004).
21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mails or other messages (i-SAFE, 2004).
56% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online. More than 4 out of 10 say it has happened more than once (i-SAFE, 2004).
53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online. More than 1 in 3 have done it more than once (i-SAFE, 2004).
56% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online (i-SAFE, 2004).

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BULLYING IS LEARNED BEHAVIOR.

Parents May Be Teaching Teens to Be BulliesHigh schools students may mimic bullying behavior they see at home.
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Some teens may learn bullying behavior from their parents.

When Wisconsin news anchor Jennifer Livingston was called fat by a viewer, she got a firsthand taste of the kind of bullying many high school students confront on a daily basis.

More than 20 percent of teens report being the target of name calling, 18 percent say they were the subject of rumors, and 17 percent reported either physical harassment—shoving, tripping, or being spit on—or the threat of violent actions, according to a 2011 report by the U.S. Department of Education.

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This behavior is often learned by example, Livingston said during an on-air response to her bully, noting that October is National Bullying Prevention Month. And more often than not, parents are the ones setting that example, experts say.

"If you are at home and you're talking about the fat news anchor, guess what, your children are probably going to go to school and call someone fat," Livingston said.

While few parents aim to instill bad habits in their children, there are several ways they may inadvertently teach their teens to bully, says Jeff Brown, a licensed psychologist and assistant clinical professor of psychology in the psychiatry department at Harvard University.

Students pick up on how parents talk about others, but they are also tuned into how their parents treat one another, he says.

"Do they see mom bullying dad, or dad bullying mom? Man, that is a powerful way … to influence behaviors," Brown says.

Bullying between parents can take the form of overt verbal abuse, but it can also be a more subtle over-extension of power, he adds.

"[If] dad is demanding and things need to be done for him all the time, and mom has to see about everything … almost like his personal assistant, the kid might go out and try that as well just because it was modeled," he says.
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Fostering a sense of entitlement in teens who excel academically or athletically is another way well-intentioned parents may inadvertently breed bullies, says Nicole Yetter, an educational consultant and high school guidance counselor in the Philadelphia suburbs.​


Common perceptions of teens who bully is that they have low self-esteem, but recent research shows the opposite may also be true, Yetter says.

"Some of the kids who demonstrate that bullying behavior actually are very entitled. They feel very empowered; they feel very grandiose," she says.

In some cases, those teens even bully their parents, says Harvard's Brown.

"If you've not had limits, your kid hasn't been able to hear the word 'no,' that's scary because that is definitely a breeding ground for bullying," he says. "When a kid can bully parents, the sky is the limit for them at that point."
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