14Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
Now I, John Rinaldi cannot speak for anyone but myself, but in my trying to wrap my head around someone lying under-oath to actually harm someone, the only thing I can imagine is that she read 1. Rip-Off report (google John Rinaldi and Rip-Off Report) and foolishly believed it, and 2. are high-lighted below.
*****Rip-Off Report is an on-line 'bitch' site, and the only way to have anything negative taken down, one needs to pay $5,000.00 to $100,000.00.
It's extortion, and even the Police Commissioner's Office of the New York City Police couldn't do it.
Thank you, NYPD Detective Thomas
5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
8. We became addicted to excitement.
9. We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
10. We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
13. Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music.”